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Dissociation · also called numbing

why can I not feel anything

Dissociation is a protective disconnection from thoughts, feelings or surroundings under overwhelming stress. It is effective in the moment and costly over time, because a system that switches off under pressure also switches off during ordinary life.

What to do about it

Ground through the senses: five things you can see, four you can touch. Reconnection is physical.

Books that work on this

Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.

Part of the Nervous System series.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • I feel numb all the time
  • like I am watching myself
  • spacing out constantly
  • nothing feels real
  • I go blank in arguments
  • why can I not feel anything
  • checked out emotionally
  • autopilot all day

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.