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Anger as signal

why am I so angry all the time

Anger is information that a boundary has been crossed or a need is unmet. Treated as a fault it gets suppressed and re-emerges as resentment or collapse; treated as data it identifies precisely what needs addressing.

What to do about it

Ask what line was crossed. Anger is almost always pointing at a specific one.

Books that work on this

Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.

Part of the Nervous System series.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • why am I so angry all the time
  • I explode over nothing
  • angry but I do not know why
  • is my anger a problem
  • I suppress my anger then blow up
  • resentment building up
  • how to use anger productively

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.