Shame versus guilt
why do I hate myself after mistakes
Guilt says I did something bad; shame says I am something bad. Guilt is workable because it points at an action you can repair. Shame is paralysing because it indicts the whole person and offers nothing to fix.
What to do about it
Restate the shame sentence as a guilt sentence. Then repair the action it names.
Books that work on this
Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.
Discipline Over Motivation$6.99
The Comeback Blueprint$6.99
Failure Math$6.99
No One Coming$6.99
Rebuild In Silence$6.99
Discipline Versus Motivation$6.99
Free Forever After$6.99Part of the Discipline series.
How people say it
Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.
- I feel worthless not just wrong
- why do I hate myself after mistakes
- difference between shame and guilt
- I feel like a bad person
- cannot forgive myself
- toxic shame
- I am the problem
Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.