No contact · also called grey rock
how to cut someone off completely
No contact is a boundary of complete disengagement, used where a relationship cannot be made safe. Grey rock is its partial form for situations that cannot be fully exited — co-parenting, work — where you become deliberately unrewarding to engage with.
What to do about it
Decide in advance what you will do when they make contact, so the decision is not made under pressure.
Books that work on this
Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.
Cut The Drain$6.99
Keep The Three$6.99
The Connection Blueprint$6.99
Marriage Is Job$6.99
Stop Lying Conflict$6.99
Friendship At Forty$6.99
The Loneliness Problem$6.99
Guard The Gate$6.99Part of the Connection series.
How people say it
Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.
- should I go no contact
- how to cut someone off completely
- he keeps contacting me
- grey rock method
- how to stop responding to my ex
- cutting off a family member
- I broke no contact again
- how long does no contact take
Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.