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Love bombing

why did they lose interest suddenly

Love bombing is an intense, accelerated display of attention and affection early in a relationship. Its function is to create attachment faster than judgement can operate, which is why the contrast when it stops feels like withdrawal rather than a normal adjustment.

What to do about it

Slow the pace deliberately. Anything genuine survives being taken slowly.

Books that work on this

Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.

Part of the Connection series.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • it moved so fast
  • he was perfect at first then changed
  • why did they lose interest suddenly
  • too much too soon relationship
  • intense beginning then cold
  • was it love bombing
  • he called me his soulmate in two weeks

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.