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Identity reconstruction

how to reinvent yourself

Identity reconstruction is deliberately rebuilding who you are after a period that dismantled the previous version — a divorce, an addiction, a collapse. It works forwards through behaviour rather than backwards through recovering the old self, which no longer fits.

What to do about it

Choose one behaviour the new version does daily, and do it before you feel like that person.

Books that work on this

Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.

Part of the Comeback series.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • I do not know who I am anymore
  • rebuilding my life from scratch
  • who am I without them
  • starting over at 40
  • lost myself completely
  • how to reinvent yourself
  • I want to become a different person

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.