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Financial shame

How do I deal with financial shame?

Financial shame is treating your bank balance as a verdict on your worth. It causes avoidance — unopened statements, unchecked balances — which reliably makes the underlying situation worse and then deepens the shame.

What to do about it

Look at the real number today. Avoidance is the expensive part, not the number.

Books that work on this

Each is a 90-day programme. Start with the first — later books assume the work in the earlier ones.

Part of the Comeback series.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • I am ashamed of my debt
  • cannot look at my bank account
  • I avoid opening bills
  • embarrassed about money
  • feel like a failure financially
  • everyone else has it together
  • money makes me feel worthless

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.