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Emotional sovereignty

why do I let people affect me so much

Sovereignty is the state where your emotional condition is not controlled by another person's behaviour. It is not detachment — you still feel the impact — but their mood stops functioning as the input that determines yours.

What to do about it

Notice one moment today where you handed someone your state. Take it back without announcing it.

How people say it

Nobody looks this up by its clinical name. These are the ways it actually gets said.

  • they ruin my whole day
  • why do I let people affect me so much
  • how to stop caring what they think
  • his mood controls the house
  • I cannot be okay if they are not
  • emotional independence
  • taking my power back

Written by Brian Spiker, who has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — the receipts. More terms in the encyclopedia.

About the author

Brian Spiker has run Spiker Carpet and Tile Care since 2013 — a real service business with real customers, real Google reviews, and 13 years of work most self-help authors will never do.

He writes the way operators talk: brutal, funny, and built from work that actually has to get done. Verify everything at spikercarpetandtilecare.com.